Using substances may have been some of the darkest, saddest, loneliest & scariest times of my existence, but that wasn’t where I first started to lose myself.
That started long before.
I think pain & trauma can make for fertile ground for that to happen, especially if it is not addressed.
I began hiding as a young girl.
I created masks to wear that became my safe places to hide when things became unbearable or when I really didn’t know where else to turn, so I turned inward.
I felt like I needed to hide from the drugs; the pipes, the trays, the smells, the bottles.
I cowered and hid from the violence; the drama, the yelling, the noise, the sirens.
I hid from the strangers in my living room; the men, the lurkers, the lovers.
I would imagine myself being in different places. Different houses, different cars, or different families.
I believe that I hid so often that there didn’t seem to be any benefits to coming back out again. It didn’t feel safe.
By the time that I started looking to different substances I was already a lost person.
All that I really yearned for was inner peace and calm, and some type of contentment. I just wanted all types of enough, to simply be enough.
I didn’t think that Recovery would work for me,
because I believed to my core that I was a throw away person.
But I wanted it.
I wanted to learn how to live a sober life.
The more I learned about God- the more I felt like I knew about myself,
and the more that I knew about myself through Christ,
the more I felt okay being who I was in my own skin.
I was finally able to make some real peace with my past.
I finally understood that I could not take back my bad choices, or get the time I had lost back.
I could not live on regret and I may not regain all of my memory either.
I began to understand that I was forgiven and it was alright to move forward.
I was given a sense of peace about it and felt ready to make new choices and new memories.
I was finally able to face and accept my past, and even embrace it to use it for something good.
I had a new chance to do something with my life. I was alive for a reason.
Letting God use my past for His glory, took away all of the negative power that I had given it before. It was now completely powerless in bringing me back down.
I was not going back there.
I want everyone who is hurting or struggling to know the truth.
You are loved and you are so so valuable.
God’s love is powerful, His love is the kind that can mend, heal, and re-create.
Through it, you can feel again.
You can love again.
You can live again.
You can look in the mirror again.
Recovery with God doesn’t mean that you won’t have to put in hard work, or learn new things.
Actually, the opposite happens. You are dismantled piece by piece, and re-built with parts that are so true to who you are. You will quickly begin to feel and believe that the cards you were dealt, and the mess that you have made of your life- are NOT the end of your story.
The struggle is real, but so is our GOD, and so is Hope, and so is life after addiction.
God will absolutely restore every single thing that was taken from you and everything that you gave away to your addiction.
That, and much, much more.
Heather, I understand that feeling all too well and I am so sorry you are experiencing those feelings. Don’t forget you can pray anytime, anywhere to a God who loves you- is for you, cares for you, and wants you to LIVE an abundant life. I am here anytime too.
I feel like I’m alone and I am lost