My son barely knew his biological father and to this day, doesn’t remember him. Despite those facts I still do not speak badly of or write negative things about him. I will just keep it vague and simple. He was young. I was young. We were both on our way to being addicted and were…
Category: Marriage
Addiction, Sobriety, & Ten Years Together.
May 22 of every year is special, simply because we made it. I am not sure how, but we did. I can’t sit here and say that when our story began it was ideal or even close to something healthy but regardless, it started and our story kept on going. It is nothing short of…
Constructive vs. Destructive
I am reading Ed Young’s, The 10 Commandments of Marriage. I started it a few months ago. It could have been a short read, but my time management skills are obviously lacking. I have a house full of boys who I love, one of them being a seven-month-old who recently started…
The Husband Bashing Thing.
If you walked into a room you could actually feel the difference between: Women using their gifts, talents, or experiences, to help empower, teach, or inspire another woman who needs help, direction, or advice when it comes to her husband or their marriage- and a woman who is throwing herself a husband bash-sesh, who is secretly hoping…
The Perfect Man.
I have been with my husband for nine years and married for six of them. So I am no expert. Although we are closer than ever, weare still learning, growing, and navigating the waters of marriage. Last year I wrote a few posts about how my addiction affected my relationship with my husband and how…
Husband and Wife.
Two whole parts, that came together as one. Many many many people have asked me why we waited to get married. Why this, why that. I wanted to be a healthy, whole person that he was taking as his wife. I wanted him to have a partner in life- and to feel like he had…
Husband Thoughts part 5- Is Recovery forever?
My husband has been a trooper. He picked me up so many times after I had fallen-yet again. My ‘falling’ doesn’t necessarily mean that I relapsed. I lapsed a few times, he helped pick me up (he was mad, but he picked me up) I have gone through sicknesses related to this disease, memory issues…
The Husband Series: A Boring Future.
At this point guys- we have gone from dating, to him realizing that I had a serious problem, us having massive fights and emotionally driven issues that led to my eventual decision to try to get sober and learn about Recovery. At the point where I began going to meetings- I was figuring…
Husband thoughts part 4- Phases, waves and meetings.
***On Celebrate Recovery meetings: So after being sober for awhile she started going to meetings every week. Every Thursday night. I felt like they weren’t going to do much for her, but I also had no issue with her going to them. I did start noticing small changes here and there. She started reading a…
Husband thoughts part 3- Patiently driving her crazy
***Tough times. Relationships are ideally suppose to be two whole people, coming together to be like a badass couple. I felt like I was one person, babysitting this broken person. To be honest, It was very very hard. I needed things too. I wanted love and affection. I needed attention. These are things that you…
Husband thoughts part 2- Clear rules and Boundaries.
***On hitting his own breaking point: After the time that you took too many pills on a random weekday afternoon, you collapsed in the post office. I got a call and came up to the hospital. This was about the time that we had a big blowout fight and I asked you to leave. This…
Husband thoughts part 1- The Realization
My husband’s journey through my addiction and recovery. It breaks my heart to go back and think about all that I put him through, but living this life in the now, we can both see just how much this experience bonded us and our hearts together in such a spectacular way, that if we can…
Husband Q & A
Relationships. Let’s say you are a couple. You love each other and value one another. One of you ends up with an addiction and becomes dependent on a substance. It tears them apart and dismantles who they once were. That person that you fell in love with is gone. All you are left with is…
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