Category: Addiction

Tis’ the Season to Al-Anon.

I really enjoy having the freedom to put my thoughts -well, somewhere; writing is like my personal therapy. My brain, even though I am sure on a scan it would be lit up all funky, blotchy, and likely considered ‘dysfunctional’… is somehow still full of ideas and deep things that always seem to be circulating …

It gets better.

My life began to change almost 10 years ago. I last attempted suicide & sobriety almost 10 years ago. I have been in Recovery from drugs and alcohol for almost 9 straight years. I was baptized 7 years and 8 months ago. One of the main things that my Recovery revealed pretty quickly was the …

Relapse Begins In Your Head.

Recovery is a long-process because you are not simply learning how to stay away from drugs. Of course, that’s of utmost importance. It’s a given. It’s a start and a pre-requisite for life change. It has to happen in order for you to move forward or to make any progress in Recovery, but there is …

3 Things I want you to know:

Three things that I would want to tell you:  1. You matter.  Yes, YOU. Even though you feel like you have messed up too many times, or have gone way too far to ever be a person that you like again, you still matter. You are a valuable, respectable, loveable, human being. (Colossians 2:13 https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Colossians+2%3A13-14&version=NLT …

What Keeps You Sober?

What keeps you sober?  Your program? Reading Literature? Meditating on Daily Devotionals? Staying fit or healthy? Reading? Sports? Traveling? Church? Your sponsor or accountability partner? Based off of what I have observed in the awesome people I have met in the Recovery community, it is usually a combination of several key things and there doesn’t …

My Favorite Part of Sobriety,

I was recently asked if I had to choose my favorite part of sobriety, what would it be? I went with my immediate & initial cognitive response. The one that automatically popped into my head. Contentment.  That was it. If I were to have thought about it for much longer, I would have debated, went …

Recovery Misconceptions

Many come into Recovery looking for a break.  Let’s face it. If we have sought help and are considering a major life change, chances are, we are tired. We can’t kid ourselves, though. There aren’t any Recovery programs out there that I know of that are readily handing out free passes to new miracle lifestyles or …

Love- Hating Yourself.

Recovery means different things to different people, but I would bet that we could all agree that it generally speaking- It means us, learning to live healthy, productive, peaceful, lives.  Regardless of which program we choose to follow, partake in, or interact with- Regardless of what our drug of choice is/was- Regardless of how much clean …

Stumbling Blocks:

There are things that can hold us back in our Recovery. We can count on these things keeping us from moving forward or making any significant progress. There are certain things that will most definitely stop you dead in your tracks. Without learning how to accept and process these them, you will have a really …

It All Boils Down To Staying Honest With Ourselves

I said I would tell you how things went after I left the hospital.  Maybe it doesn’t ever completely ‘go away’. It goes, somewhere, but not ‘away’. I know that is not a super sciency explanation, but this is a real-life, true to every day explanation. Like if our brains were old farm-houses. Our old addictions …

Percocet. I love you very much.

After my c-section and tubal ligation, I chose not to take any pain medication stronger than the standard issued 800 mg of Ibuprofen every few hours. It did absolutely nothing. My pain remained a solid 10. On top of having latching issues and being brand new to breastfeeding a new adorable tiny human every single …

Why Relationships Are Sort of Important:

Never trust or rely on anyone. People will always let you down. I choose to walk alone. This mentality blossomed into what would later become one of my greatest ‘character defects’. My addiction turned me into a taker, a manipulator and user of people. I ‘needed’ their services, their money, or any other tangible, useful …

The Danger of the One Man Army.

Call it a coping mechanism, a learned behavior, something ingrained into my psyche from listening to too many perpetuated loops of Tupac’s Me against the World… (or maybe a combination of varying amounts of all..) but when a person allows themselves to succumb to the ‘me against them’ mentality, you can expect fatal results. Yes, …

3 Reasons to Reach Out in Early Recovery:

As I scroll through any one of my several news-feeds, I am reminded of my own struggles that I faced in early recovery. I can literally feel the frustration and anger from people who are withdrawing & detoxing their bodies and minds. These people are doing their very best to sort out feelings that they are now …

The Shame Card.

  Words. They are powerful. They have the power to help the healing process and they can hold enough power to destroy someone. In the past using words as weapons to cut people down and stomp all over them was how I would react when I was angry or frustrated. It was my defense and it was …

The Irony of it all.

  I was just thinking and thought I would share with you guys. Isn’t it ironic that in early addiction we tend to live in the future. We are living fast, we want things now, we are rushing around in a hurry to have fun and find more, more, more. In late addiction we tend to …

Addiction Destroys Families.

Yes addiction destroys families. It destroys all of nouns in its path if they are within reach. It’s hostages are usually people, but relationships, mental health, physical health, emotional health, a person’s business, someone’s career, overall stability, and wellness are almost always banged up too. You name it. If it’s in the way, it either …

Practicing Recovery

The real lifestyle changes that Recovery has to offer will have the opportunity to begin and become active parts of our new lives: when we choose to close our apps and decide to power off our laptops; and get to work.  I know not everyone has meetings available in their area, or the type of …

To go.. or not to go?

To go or not to go? That is always the question during the holiday season. If you are in Recovery, the holidays can be hard. Each individual has various levels of coping skills, time in Recovery, different triggers, vulnerabilities, and weaknesses. There are too many variables to post an all-encompassing, accurate, blanket answer for everyone …

3 Things that I am grateful for.

In Recovery we are taught to cultivate an attitude of gratefulness. This helps us to begin the process of living in humility; balancing living mindful, presently, and in the now yet not ever forgetting the trench in which we were pulled from, and the people who were there to help save us from ourselves. The …

Something to remember:

  “Well, the past is playing with my head And failure knocks me down again I’m reminded of the wrong That I have said and done And that devil just won’t let me forget….” “My mistakes are running through my mind And I’ll relive my days in the middle of the night When I struggle …

Support Systems in Recovery

I am definitely a fan of ‘alone’. I am a true introvert, and not by popular, new-age, twenty-first century, because it’s cool choice. It is simply who I am. I am not anti-social. I love the people who I am close to, I enjoy speaking and meeting new people and I am encouraged by engaging …

Living One Day at a Time: 4 Benefits

  I believe that in Recovery we should definitely have long-term goals etched out in our minds. We should have a rough idea of somewhere we would like to be, somewhere we could see ourselves, and things that we would like to accomplish in our lives, in the long-term, as sober humans. In early recovery …

Addiction Requires Dishonesty. Recovery Requires Truth.

We have to pay particular attention to how honest and truthful that we are in Recovery, holding ourselves to crazy high standards in order to ensure the best possibilities for ourselves and our future. Why? Because active addiction requires a lot of consistent dishonesty. One of the only areas left that an addict can manage …

The 12 -steps & Recovery.

I ran across this article from 2011 on Promises Recovery website. I am sharing directly from their page, and I think it is beneficial for anyone who is in Recovery.  Here is the link to full original article: (http://www.promises.com/articles/work-the-steps-in-recovery/) **Working the Steps Promotes Essential Values It has been said that each of the 12 Steps …

12 gifts of Recovery.

  1. HOPE- We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance.  And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation.  And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has …

Courage & Wisdom.

  Everyone goes through ups and downs in life. (And if you have an addict in your life, there are sure to be lots of ups, downs, unpredictability, uncertainty, highs, lows, let-down, defeat and more.) One thing that I have learned in Recovery that I have applied to my everyday life, has been learning to …

When They Judge, It’s Not About You

If you are in Recovery, chances are, you know someone who cannot understand how ‘people like us’ could ever allow our lives to be transformed, taken over, and destroyed by a chemical or process addiction. They just cannot fathom being so stupid. I have heard variations of comments like similar to these: Those people are …

The Complacency Trap

Ahhh. Complacency. We have all heard about it. I am almost positive everyone goes through a phase where they couldn’t even imagine themselves falling into an infinite loop of nothingness; and that place that isn’t necessarily ‘bad’ but it isn’t effective or healthy either. Complacency is to recovery what bystanders are to injustice. No, maybe …

Writing Exercises

  In Celebrate Recovery there are a lot of homework assignments in the participant guides ask you  to write down specific thoughts and feelings about specific times in our lives. Maybe times where we have been hurt, things we have not yet forgiven, times that we have made poor choices, or beginning to keep track …

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