Late at night, when all is calm, and our house is taking a rest, I see your face in my mind. My heart aches for who you might be, or who I know that you are, hidden underneath all of your scars, and beneath the pain that you carry on your shoulders. You would hate…
Tag: codependency
12 Ways to Help Kill Your Addicted Loved One AND Lose Your Sanity
1. Every time you talk to them, be sure to remind them of how they are wasting their life away by making stupid & idiotic decisions that make no logical sense. Remind them that if they were not stupid, they would be able to see that. 2. Be sure to base how much they love…
10 Tips: For Friends & Family of Someone Struggling with an Addiction
These are just things that would have helped me when I was struggling.Here are 10 randomly concocted tips that I have come up with: 1. Express empathy for them, directly to them. 2. Avoid arguments with them whether they are sober or not. (this creates a high-emotion situation and doesn’t do anything besides creating an urgency to use…
Bending The Boundaries
Ya’ll this week has been a little bit tough. I think that when someone who you love struggles with addiction, chances are you struggle with codependency issues. This has been the kind of week that I really have to be on point. I know a lot of facts and formal knowledge about addiction, codependency,…
Fall 17 times, Stand up 18.
One of the first books of the Bible that I ever read (or understood) was in the book of Romans. Romans 7:18 was the first thing that I memorized. (Naturally, I had to get it tattooed on my body.) Verse 18 goes like this: I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my…
Why Did You Change?
For family members or friends of people who are addicted, we often wonder if they will ever change. We worry. We lose sleep. We wish we had answers or effective words or more powerful love. What it will take for them to finally be ready? How much more will they have to lose? How many…