How I feel when people blow my accumulated sober-time out of proportion without knowing how deep my dysfunction runs:
It’s not that I don’t genuinely appreciate a compliment and it’s not that I still haven’t learned how to gracefully accept one. I know exactly how hard and long I have worked so far, and what I had to go through, grow through, crawl through, and walk through to get where I am today.
Still, it has been eleven short years and while I am proud, I am humble enough to know that I am no prodigy. While I have met goals that I could never have imagined I would ever get close to touching, I am not any more special than you. I am not more capable or stronger or more gifted. There are millions of other people just like me who are living and thriving in recovery and the door’s open to anyone. Personally, I want you to know that you are just as capable as I am, and as the other twenty-million or so people who are now leading healthy, new, different, surreal lives.
This is not a whimsical fairytale lifestyle only available to the chosen few. This is real-life. I think it’s not inaccurate to say that all of us felt like it was out of reach for us at some point, that is until we got here and realized that everyone else felt the same way. All you have to do is start exactly where you are with what you have, and with the determination to take a few steps in a different direction every day. So let people in, take off your masks, and we will all help you get to work.