Category: Breaking Generational Cycles

Stop The Need To Control Before It Starts

  I have a slightly sarcastic teenager living in my house and I use the term slightly, sarcastically. He goes through phases of embracing different words and phrases that he and his friends consider to be funny. A few months back, it was Y.P. and M.P. For example, if I said to him, “Yo there …

Sobriety Doesn’t Always Feel Good, But it Always Feels Right.

I had coffee with my mom this week at my house, in my kitchen. I fed her and we talked for a couple of informative, surprisingly uneventful hours. She says that her case worker and counselor are two of the most friendly, knowledgeable, and responsive that she has ever had. (Praise the Lord for that). …

Early Recovery & Sober Mom Guilt

I had a birthday Saturday and I have to say turning 34 is just as cool as turning 33 was. As far as I can tell, as each sober year comes and goes this life stuff is going to continue to get better and better. Apparently, another hidden perk of my recovery has gone unnoticed. …

Creating Tradition Doesn’t Have To Be Complicated

A few weeks ago during a small-ish ladies event, for our conversation starter activity we were asked to finish this sentence: (Out-loud. One by one.) “It just wouldn’t be Thanksgiving without…”   Since I shelved the art of lying to try to sound as ‘normal’ as possible, years ago, for my response I chose to …

New Normals

In early recovery, my secondary focus was finding peace. It could have tied for first place if staying sober was even the tiniest bit negotiable as a required prerequisite before anything else could happen, but that’s not how this recovery thing works. Finding peace had been a priority on my to-do list my entire life. …

3 Things I Have Learned About Breaking Cycles of Dysfunction

Most of what was supposed to have been my childhood was actually just me, walking around pissed, in disbelief that my life was actually my life. The rest I was just hyper-focused and centered on pre-planning my actions & reactions, and surviving day-to-day on an emotional and psychological level. I had no idea that I was …

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